TAKE ACTION This October - Instead of The DV Awareness (Useless Feel-Goods) Month

Again, we can stop this..... Question is do we want to? This Book is under $20.00. Absolutely every victim/ survivor/ advocate/ city council, DA, State, AG, and it should be in EVERY University and Public Library in this Nation!

I want this to be the standard read when it comes to intimate terrorisim. Simple, money gaining vs. costing, the only way that it would even be possible to continue these horrible human rights atrocities is by those powers that be.... Society can now be outraged and DEMAND, without repercussion, armed with the facts, the easy truths in resolving humanity's basic human rights to freedom, to safety.
And, it is simple common sense that will GAIN $$ - not need more $ tossed at it.

http://www.amazon.com/The-Quincy-Solution-Barry-Goldstein/dp/1934759864

Would you like to share a $500 billion reward?  It might sound too good to be true, but this is the benefit to society of adopting the Quincy Solution with its proven practices to dramatically reduce domestic violence crime.  Barry Goldstein has spent his career working to prevent abuse so he knew how to synthesize history and research about practices that stop domestic violence with medical research about the enormous health impact from stress related to domestic violence and child abuse.

Barry started by reviewing the successful practices in Quincy, San Diego, and Nashville.  Domestic violence is not inevitable, and it is not surprising it can be prevented with a group of best practices.  He updated the proven practices with new research, technology, and inclusion of the custody courts.  The primary obstacle was inertia and money.  Then the ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) research established that children exposed to domestic violence, child abuse, and other traumas suffer more illnesses and injuries throughout their lives.  We can reduce societal problems like cancer, heart disease, substance abuse, and crime—and dramatically improve our economy.  This is the Quincy Solution.

• Domestic violence is not inevitable.  The Quincy Solution is based on successful practices in Quincy, Nashville, and San Diego so we know it works.
• The $500 billion in annual savings from the Quincy Solution comes from prevention of illnesses and injuries, reduced crime, and victims reaching their economic potential.
• The Quincy Solution is more than an absence of abuse.  Women and children will be safe in their homes and free to reach their potential.

ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Barry Goldstein has dedicated his career to stopping men’s violence against women and preventing the mental, emotional and physical trauma it inflicts on their children.  A passionate and sought-after speaker, Barry’s the author of four other books on domestic violence.

“I can’t help but think of all the courageous women who died and all the anguished faces of the children they left behind -- who might have been saved by this book.”~ Rita Smith, Former Executive Director, National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

“Barry Goldstein compiles shocking data showing how our legal system enables violence against women and children.  Buy this book.”~ Wendy Murphy, New England Law Boston, Author “And Justice For Some”

“Domestic violence can be stopped.  This book proves it.”~ Andrew Willis, Survivor, Founder Stop Abuse Campaign

“Barry Goldstein has eloquently captured the crisis that is domestic violence in America today, but his real gift is that of hope.”  ~ Sarah Buel, Survivor, Advocate, Law Professor and former Quincy Prosecutor

“A must-read for advocates, police officers, lawyers, judges and anyone who cares about saving the lives of domestic violence victims.” ~ Lt. Mark Wynn (ret), Nashville PD

“A long-awaited, desperately-needed gift to battered women and their children.  This plan could become the Holy Grail of custody litigation.”~ Mo Therese Hannah, PhD, Chair of the Battered Mothers Custody Conference

“Preventing domestic violence can interrupt the cycle of violence that harms children, families and communities.  It’s critical to use science to demonstrate what works, then move from science to practice.”~ Linda C. Degutis, DrPH, MSN, Former Director, NationalCenter for Injury Prevention and Control, CDC

“Shocked to learn the courts don’t already make the health and safety of children priority one when deciding custody and visitation.”~ Kelly Rutherford

Actress

Sales of this book support the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence and the Stop Abuse Campaign's implementation of the Quincy Model.

Violence: is Just One, of Many Methods Used to Maintain Complete Control and Total Domination of Women.

Despite its great achievements, the Domestic Violence Revolution Is Stalled, Evan Stark argues, a provocative conclusion he documents by showing that Interventions Have Failed to improve women’s long-term safety in relationships or to hold perpetrators accountable.

Stark traces This Failure to terrifying detail how men a startling paradox, that the Singular Focus on Violence against women Masks an even More Devastating reality. In millions of abusive relationships, Men Use a largely unidentified form of Subjugation that more closely Resembles Kidnapping or Indentured Servitude than assault. He calls this pattern coercive control. Drawing on sources that range from FBI statistics and film to dozens of actual cases from his thirty years of experience as an award-winning researcher, advocate, and forensic expert, Stark shows:

"How Men Can Extend Their Dominance of Women, Over Time and    through Social Space in ways that Subvert Women’s Autonomy, Isolate Them, and Infiltrate the Most Intimate Corners of Her Life".   See more at: American Mothers Political Party 

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Violence:  Just One,  in the endless, and many, in combination with other methods, to Maintain Complete Control, and Total Domination of Women.

I was asked to do a video biography. This was one of the hardest things I have done. It was easy for myself to actually advocate and "just do" what needed to be done, when the time was right. But dig personally back into just myself, taking pieces and trying to timeline backwards, well it just didn't work that way for me. Perhaps it is too painful, perhaps because it does not feel whole without my sisters in unity. (I think that is it).

 Most of my sisters, know that I am on hiatus at the moment. I continue to seek answers, solutions and a wholeness to bring back to, and contribute along with my mothers and my sisters. You see, we all are in this together, our suffering is not just ours, it is humanity's. We know from "gut' instinct, and pure love of heart, that we must change the perception of domestic violence, because it is wrong in every sense.  We must somehow "UN-minimize” it and bring it back around to what it truly is. Because we know from our own personal journeys, that this IS a stripping of our very humanity, our autonomy, our very basic human right to our self.

Of course, October, (our only small, yet minimal, alleged time to speak) about some of the horrors, in the stripping of our humanity, just one of many used against us (violence). That one month, that twenty five years ago was set aside for the color purple, the color that no one "gets",  like the color "pink" does, on the backs of beverages and sugar packages in the stores. Regardless of the fact that the "Leading Cause of Death to Pregnant Women" is from the same dominating monsters/ property owners/fathers/so called intimate others/ boyfriends/husbands.

The Nazi's and the Slave Master’s,  impregnated women the same way. Yet, we remain very much imprisoned and bound by societies accepted cultural norms of treating women worse than cattle.

We are a class of people whose basic human rights to self, to freedom, to life,  have been and continue to be violated, not just by those "slave owners" who sought to dominate us in every aspect of our lives, but by an entire system and social culture that is so very accepting and supportive of the continued oppression of women and her children. One day what has happened to us, will go down in history as one of the worlds worst, mass human destruction.

We are not "domestic", we are not "dispute", we are not "high conflict", we are not just "violence", and we are certainly not "shared parenting" "alienation or any other psych term, coined to maintain control over women and children. Not unlike "draptomania" that was given to slaves when they wanted to be free of their masters. The solution was to beat them severely. Just as now, the solution is to take her children, and make her jump through decades of impossible hoops, to which we do, because of our children. In that strength and in that complete determination, our oppressors have under estimated us. Because you see, it is that very same drive that we will overcome, we will set ourselves free.

 After 20 long hard years, in the trenches, with mothers, my sisters, comrades and friends, who hold each other up, who are sure to never let any voice be silenced, I salute you!


[ohhh and p.s. I remain in my personal boycott of "Domestic Violence Awareness Month" for personal reasons, as I have, the past few years. I think that when WE and not the powers that be, create our own expression and our own truths and our own way to speak, without minimizing the totality of the treatment of women, then I shall sing from every roof top].

The Path Unpaved

(a poem for the Humanist's Path for Freedom & Human Rights)

I've walked this path alone so often,

I know it's form by heart.

And now, as always, my footing's unsure,

on its unstable and rocky start.

I second-guess each step I take,

for fear I'll slip and fall,

That one wrong step will lend me to,

an end that ends it all.

One misplaced foot, one careless word,

an avalanche begins;

The tug of war of heart and mind,

till one of them finally wins.

Each time I've walked this troubled path,

It’s ended  journey not together,

 Each time I fear that to walk it again,

will tear me apart forever.

I haven't the strength to walk it alone,

nor the energy, if only I knew..

As every time I take this route,

I fear it may be my last too.

I don't know how to stop the pain,

Of traveling down this road again.

I've fought it time and over,

only to start it over again.

Yet each and every day I persevere,

As I steady my Unstable start:

I know that only change can come

From all of Passions Heart.

So if I must, I’ll rest awhile.

Ignore the Siren song.

Take comfort in the truth I dare

Unshakably, I will try to stand eternally strong.

© AngelFury - 2005

Abusers Will Take Her Children If She Trys To Leave

Barry Goldstein with Gill Trebilcock on Revolution Radio's Cancel The Cabal

Barry Goldstein is a nationally recognized domestic violence author speaker and advocate. He has written some of the leading books about domestic violence and custody including Domestic Violence, Abuse and Child Custody, co-edited with Dr. Mo Therese Hannah, Representing the Domestic Violence Survivor, co authored with Elizabeth Liu and Scared to Leave Afraid to Stay. His newest book, The Quincy Solution: Stop Domestic Violence and Save $500 Billion demonstrates how we can dramatically reduce domestic violence crime based on proven methods. Barry is also a passionate and sought after speaker who frequently presents for domestic violence, government, educational and professional groups.

The shows full Mp3 is below.
http://www.cancelthecabal.net/uploads...

(DV/IPV) Coercive Control Targets Gender Identity with an Emphasis on Male Domination, Sexual Inequality and Personal Liberty

Because coercive control is so closely linked to inequality, 
to confront it effectively, the advocacy movement should refocus on domination, prioritize “freedom” alongside “safety,” and openly support the feminist agenda.

Sage Journal
Violence Against Women

Source:2013 Journal Citation Reports® (Thomson Reuters, 2014)

http://vaw.sagepub.com/content/15/12/1509

Rethinking Coercive Control

1. Evan Stark
   1. Rutgers University, Eds203@juno.com

Abstract

The critical appraisals of Coercive Control focus largely on what my analysis implies for intervention, a matter to which the book devotes only limited space. In this reply, I reiterate core concepts in the book and acknowledge that much more work is needed to translate the realities of coercive control into practical legal and advocacy strategies.

 I review how coercive control differs from partner assaults and so why it merits a distinct response; the extent to which coercive control targets gender identity; the wisdom of complementing the focus on violence with an emphasis on male domination, sexual inequality and personal liberty; what this implies for shelters and the law; why sexual inequality differentiates coercive control from female partner abuse of men; how sexual equality can be both cause and antidote for coercive control; why I think an affirmative concept of freedom is essential to grasp the human rights violations inflicted by coercive control; and what it means to “story” coercive control by integrating women into the larger liberty narrative on which our national identity rests. 

1. Full Text (PDF)